“Vanilla” hasn’t for ages been a put-down

“Those of us who possess various . notions of eroticism and sensuality are simply just dismissed. The pejorative word word that is pejorativebeing ‘vanilla,’ which will be ironically, probably the most sensual aromas.” – Andrea Dworkin.

“I wish BDSM people would stop talking about me personally as ‘vanilla.’ If you are making the actual situation that everyone else should really be liberated to do whatever they like without having to be judged, why call non-BDSM people a derogatory title that implies they truly are all prudish bores?” – Anonymous, commenter on Bitch.

When we bemoan the oversexualization of tradition, should we additionally be worried about the kinkification of tradition?

As BDSM writer Clarisse Thorn writes, “Being a feminist that is sex-positive we stress that other ladies will read might work and it surely will increase their performance anxiety . that it’ll lead other females to feel just like, ‘Gosh, is it one thing liberated women that are sex-positive? Continue reading